What if & If Only

Recently, been thinking of many things.

The meeting with my "CEO" n "directors" were technical good.
It's good to hear from them and see certain things from their perspective tho I still don't agree to some degree. But I think I can still live with it for meantime.

Today this "What if & If only" kept ringing in my mind (ring ring...can I speak to Mr. What If and Ms If Only?... nope. Not going to the northpole now.)

"What if" gives the idea that things or options were yet to be executed. Just like a group of planners were just looking at various methods or solutions to solve an issue, problem or situation.

"If only" talks about an issue, matter or subject been solved or dissolved but method of approach could have been better or can be done better that can generate better results or growth.

In many situations, we are caught in these 2 school of "what if & If only".

When certain issues or matters that had been made or tread on, we would normally or very likely look at the situation or the method used and says: "If only this could be done in this manner..." Neither do we ever ponder the "what if" nor what is the best approach for this issue.

In certain matter, the best way for me to solve issues or matters is using "what if" but sometimes it's easier said than done.

Putting on "what if" thinking cap helps us to look at things in a clearer perspective and be more objective. But sad to say that most of us or gernerally people are rather subjective.

"CEO" and "directors" that I know that are objective are rather few. I can only count them with one palm.
Almost all the "CEO" & "directors" that I know are very subjective. They would normally side the "more favorable" one. I called such act "favouritsm"

Such people lean to the "more favourable" one due to various reasons. (You may be able to think more as this is not exhaustive)

#1 Good fellowship
Good fellowship normally hovers around good sumptious food. If not it will not called good fellowship.
So some agreed with them because of great food.

*In the marketplace or secular world, contracts or business opportunites are secure over food and entertainment.
* Hopefully such things don't happen in my organisation.

#2 Senior position
I would gain more if I were to favoure you more cos you can protect me or ensure my position. This person or that person stays long enough in an organisation... so she or he will know more things. So can trust her or him for her/his word.

Hopefully such things don't happen in my organisation.

#3 Experience in life or age
(Chinese saying: I eat more salt more than you eat rice! Sounds familiar)
I am old or more senior than you thus WHAT I SAYS is right!
Such attitude does not garner any respect at all.
One must never says: "I am older than you thus you must listen, you must respect and don't rebutt me. Don't you be rude!" But the only impression that you give to others is that you are proud, snobbish and pompous (same meaning lar)

Hopefully such things don't happen in my organisation.


Any person who tends to incline himself or herself to these reason are rather or maybe unwise, they judged and sided the "favoured ones" too quickly without thinking, deciphering and make no effort to clarifies further with various party.
Such are deems as "light ears" or listens & agreed whatever one says.

When we fails to look at issue as it really is and starts to apply these 3 points... you have loss it totally & completely. You lose the rights to build other bridges.

In this fallen world, we need to exercise the wisdom of Christ and stay objective.
We need to put on the full armour of God and at the same time pray for discernment when we speak, talk or discuss with people regarding various matters.

I do make mistakes at times but it can be avoid when we think and decipher them objectively.

Lately, my "CEO" & "directors" always tell us manager- go to the source. go to the source for clarification.

If you fail to walk your talk (go to the source for clarification) then you loss the opportunity to build bridges and restore lives.

I've a good director. He walk his talk. He's a VP in a banking industry. He has been helping me to put certain things into perspective and at the same time not overbearing. He respect my decisions made knowing that some are needful.

So my dear reader, do you exercise "What if or If Only"?

For you to ponder.

Blessings