Courtesy

Dear Readers... this might be another long post but reading further might cause you to think further about this issue....

Have you ever encountered friends or people who does not have basic manners?
OR
Have you ever received sms or msn from friends that didn't even send you their greeting or can't be bothered to say: "Hi so & so" or "Hey so & so"... but instead went ahead and rattled on his or her agenda?

I believe these reply would be an undoubtedly "YES".

I had the opportunity to discuss this with my inner circle of friends...

We had derived some good reasons why people or friends thought that it was fine:

#1- We are good old friends- many years of friendship.
(So it's fine lar... let's overlook such formality... let's forget about each
other's boundary lar)
#2- I am your leader- Spiritual, organisation.
(So let's go straight to the point... forget about formality)
#3- Save time lar
(Can save a bit more on my sms mah)
#4- We are married for so many donkey years...so long...
( It's alright lar... we understand each other well enough)

Some who read this will find these reasons justificable.... BUT
DOES THIS GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO FORGET ABOUT BASIC MANNERS?
DOES THIS HELPS YOU THE TO SET A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU?
DOES BEING COURTEOUS BORED YOU DOWN?
WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO BE IMPOLITE TO PEOPLE AROUND YOU?
WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT THESE THINGS HAPPEN IN THE PHYSICAL WON'T HAPPEN IN THE SPIRITUAL?

Allow me to share my experience when my son Barnabas was staying a Neo-Natal ward in one of our local hospital.

During that 7 months of visiting him in the hospital, Sum & myself had made establised some good friendship with the nurses, senior consultants, the social worker.
We could have exercise our very rights by expecting care to be given to our son on that period... We give up that right... but we only just keep on loving our son... through that love, we re-channel the love that Barn's received from us to the caregivers in the hospital.
We honour, respect and appreciate them by being courteous and polite to them.
Little did we realised or did we expect that we had so much favours with them. They appreciate us and commented that Barney had a great wonderful parents that loves him...

I know the responsibilty of setting a role model for our friends are vital especially to our younger ones. Neither does Sum nor myself won't dared to take it lightly BUT at times, there were many others who are able to influence neglected this very basic principle- Being Courteous.
Folks, you want to raise up a generations full of potentials? DO NOT NEGLECT THESE BASIC PRINCIPLE

Sum & myself have been married for 7 years, known each other for 12 years... We've have learnt and are still learning not to forsake such basics... cos such basics in life reflects our love for each other, our relation with our Creator God and with others.

We still says "Hi, dear...", we learnt to respect our individual boundary although we are one in body & spirit yet we are still very individual.

Let me share these truths before I end this long post...

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Ephesians 2:10
For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

If being courteous is right, excellent and if being courteous to other is doing good work, what's holding you? Just do it! Make this part of your life.

Let's cultivate this good habits among us.

Let's purpose to do the right things right.

Blessings to you